Am i his girlfriend or are we just dating
He wants to be judged for his actions, not his words. And if, after this conversation, he can’t give you this nominal gift of safety, I would highly consider moving on to a man who has the ability to step up and make you feel safe.
It’s not that this is a bad guy at all, but rather that you might be waiting your whole life to hear some words that shouldn’t cost all that much to say.
He tells me to please be patient, that he’s never been with a woman like me, one who trusts and loves unconditionally and makes him feel good when he’s with me, yet he says he’s not with me with the whole girlfriend/boyfriend thing!
I don’t know if I should wait and see, since what we have is basically the committed relationship – until he made the comment that I m not his girlfriend, everything was great. Even his friends address me as his girlfriend and he doesn’t correct them, so why can’t he say the words to me? –Kris If he’s acting like a boyfriend, what’s the harm of calling you his girlfriend? And I can understand why it’s mystifying and why you’d be tempted to run.
So your relationship is not yet formalised since at the moment you are just, well, talking.5. Although you and your ex called it quits, you still continue to have sex.
So while you have both agreed that you will not get back in an exclusive relationship, both of you continue to share a great sex life upon the basis that it is okay to continue enjoying the one thing that was actually working out in your relationship.6. You are not necessarily committed to each other, but you have deep feelings for each other, kind of like a booty call, but with deep and sometimes raw emotions involved.
Family life counsellor and educator for the Central Jamaica Conference of Seventh-day Adventists, Anthony Gordon, said while he does not condone these relationships, they are increasingly becoming a part of the popular culture."It is really the dynamics and dynamism that is evolving in this new age where relationships are concerned and so I am aware that from time to time these terms usually evolve," he said."While I understand the coding and the cultural dynamism in them, I caution persons in relationships to be careful because people might get involved in something and they are not truly aware that they are getting into," he said It is upon this premise that the counsellor cautioned young ladies getting involved in relationships to first of all understand what the various codes mean, and decide whether they accept them as a part of their relationship vocabulary.Those things are the foundation of your six month relationship and the reason that you’re agonizing over this man who claims not to be your boyfriend. Not to negotiate for the title of girlfriend, but to fully understand why it’s so important for him to reject the title and the responsibilities when he’s already acting like a full boyfriend to you.And I must say: it’s entirely possible that he’s acting in full integrity, letting you know that he’s afraid of hurting you, that he wants to go slow and choose wisely, and that he really does value you and your relationship. Make it clear that you’re trying to understand him and let him know that he wouldn’t have to do anything different, but that it would make you very happy if you could feel safe in knowing that he was your boyfriend.I have known guys like this, and have to say I would not take Evan’s pro’s and cons view of the whole thing. Basically, this guy wants the “good bits” (or what he sees as the good bits) of being in a relationship, without what he considers the “bad bits”.He wants the company, security, cuddles, sex, outings, phonecalls, meals together, weekend plans, but he doesn’t want the EMOTIONAL RESPONSIBILITY of being someone’s partner.